Journal of Counseling Research

Every couple has a unique pattern of personality needs that enter the mutual relationship. The level of the mutual needs satisfaction should be relatively high in an intimate relationship. The Violence emerges from the anger caused by dispairment to satisfy mutual needs. The purpose of this study was a qualitative research of marriage Pathology based on deprivation of basic needs satisfaction (young etal, 2003) and how to meet the needs in interpersonal relationships. Subjects were 25 students of Master of Counseling of Allameh tabataba,I University & family Psychology of Science and Culture University in 91-92 and 92-93 which were chosen by available sampling. For data collection, projective question was used. By coding and classification of subject responses, schemes and the concepts were identified. Results showed that participants in projecting their thoughts on marriage have many maladaptive schemas. Marriage is damaged by the inability to establish a safe and satisfying attachment with others mainly caused by emotional deprivation(ED), focus on inflexible rules, the inability to form an independent identity, failure to comply the rights of others & suppressing basic demands for love and approval.