Elahe Pakseresht, Dr Kosar Dehdast,
Volume 24, Issue 93 (3-2025)
Abstract
Aim: Due to the necessity of explaining the criteria for choosing a spouse, taking into account the needs of Iranian society, this research has focused on studying the lived experiences of young girls regarding the criteria for choosing a spouse based on the approach of Sahmgozari model based on Islamic ontology. Method: The research method is based on phenomenology. In the sampling process, interviews were conducted with 16 married young girls who had the indicators of Sahmgozari lifestyle such as feelings of tranquility and growth, agency, formative relationships, etc. in their lives. Targeted semi-structured interviews were conducted. Interviews continued until theoretical saturation and coding was done. Findings: Three main criteria for choosing a spouse, before marriage, to achieve the "desired self as a Sahmgozar in marital life after marriage" were obtained. The first criteria were "development-oriented and tranquility-inducing attitudes in spouses", the second criterion was "awareness and preparedness regarding similarity-inducing and difference-inducing criteria", and the third criterion was "awareness of paths of personal growth and maturity". Conclusion: Criteria for choosing a spouse based on the model of Sahmgozari can expand the girls' intellectual horizon regarding marriage and help them make a rational choice of spouse.
